Resolutions for Myself in the New Year


   Hey you, this year is going to be filled with lots of changes. You are aging out of your mom’s insurance (gotta pay those doctor bills yourself now!), you will be graduating law school, moving to a new city, and looking for your first big girl job. This new chapter is going to be pretty scary at first but I know that you can do it because you’ve made it through so many other crazy things in 2013. Keep being you but be the best you that you can be. Continue reading

The Pressure Cooker.

Wedding Planning is not easy.

We are currently 391 days away from the wedding and for whatever reason I have this overwhelming pressure to get everything done right this minute. Realistically, I know we have time and that we should be enjoying the engagement instead of worrying about every little detail. Nonetheless, I am concerned that if we do not decide on all the big details now, something will slip through the cracks and become a huge issue down the road when we are both way too busy with school and/or work to deal with it.

Nonetheless, making all of these decisions so quickly is causing me to have severe anxiety over second guessing the decisions we have made. Like, did I pick the right dress? I didn’t have that this is definitely the one feeling, there were no tears, and now I’m not sure what it even means to “feel like a bride”. What if I picked the wrong one? It is only a dress, right? 

When should we start planning the bridal shower? When do save the dates go out? Shouldn’t we already have centerpieces picked out? I don’t even have a DJ yet… what about a theme? Everyone seems to have a theme! And, how the heck are we going to pay for all of this?!

So many questions left and only 391 days to answer them all…

you obviously see my dilemma here!

Getting an STD You Actually Want.

The first time someone asked me if I had gotten my STDs yet, I looked at them like they were mental. Why would I want to get an STD? And why were they so nonchalantly discussing STDs in public? Thanks to the Google, I quickly saved myself from embarrassment and learned that STD in the world of wedding lingo meant Save The Dates because saying the actual words was apparently too exhausting and needed to be shortened.

As of Wednesday, I can proudly announce that the fiance and I selected our STD. We should be receiving them within a week and I have the lovely task of addressing each one to send out to our guest list. YAY! This whole “getting married” thing is starting to get real.

On Sunday, MIL and the SIL (mother-in-law, sister-in-law) and I are going on our first ever dress shopping extravaganza and I am terrified/excited/ready to cry. This is all getting so real. I know we are way ahead of the ball game – we are 400 days away from the date as of today, but it still feels like we have no time since we’re both going to be so busy once I start back working on Monday and he starts full-steam ahead with school/internship/and teaching. It’s crazy how much stuff there is to get done! Yet, once we have the bridal party in place I will start delegating like a CHAMP and use all my years of watching “Say Yes to the Dress”, “Wedding Story”, and “Bridezilla” to my advantage.

I do not see myself as your typical over the top bride who has dreamed of this day since she was a little girl… I really have not. I honestly have no idea what I want my wedding to look like, yet I’m told that once I start planning, I’ll know. So, let’s hope it comes to me. All I hope is that my dream is cheap because Lord knows money isn’t going to come to me in a dream.

What advice would you give me (or any new bride) as I start this planning journey?

The Murphy and AB Merger: What We’ve Learned about Engagement Photos

One would think you wouldn’t think it was a good idea to try something new on the day of a big photo shoot, right?

I missed that memo.

Let’s start at the beginning…

Photo Credit: J. Jane Photography

Photo Credit: J. Jane Photography

We both live in different states and knew we probably would not see each other for an extended period of time until Christmas, so we decided to schedule our engagement photos during my vacation at the end of July (aka last week…aka three weeks after we got engaged). We had no idea what poses we wanted to do, no idea what outfits to select, and absolutely no idea where to start on the photographer search. So, we relied on friends.

Luckily, we found a great photographer – who once we met her turned out to be an old church friend of my fiance!

On the day of the shoot, I thought it would be a great idea to attempt to curl my hair. I am not a very coordinated person, nor am I gifted in the art of hairstyling. Yet, when we walked out the door and after a can of hairspray, my hair looked good. Nonetheless, when you take photos on the top of a mountain…on a windy day… with temperatures in the nineties, your hair tends to fall flat. Why did no one tell me this?!

All in all the photos turned out well, regardless of my wild hair, thanks to our photographer’s direction and keen eye.

My advice to others would be:

  1. Find a photographer you are comfortable with because our ability to joke around with ours made the session so much more relaxed and allowed our awkward poses to go more smoothly.
  2. Do NOT try new hairstyles the day or days leading up to the shoot.
  3. Dress to your style as a couple don’t try to be who you’ve seen on Pinterest, be yourselves!
  4. Start early so you can re-do the photos, if necessary.
  5. Do NOT try to be matchy-matchy everyone gets that you are a couple, you don’t need to throw it in their faces with matching outfits.

What advice would you add to this list regarding engagement photos? Are you planning a wedding? How’s it going?

Together for A Reason

We’re not meant to go through this life alone. From the very beginning God created us two by two for a reason, we were all meant to have a mate. I’ve never been positive where I fell along the lines of  believing in soul mates nonetheless, five years ago when everything in the world seemed to be stacked against it, somehow I still found my way towards him. Our friendship led to our first date, and even though neither of us expected anything at first, we eventually started to realize that we couldn’t lie to ourselves much longer. He was my best friend. Being together was so natural. It felt like we’d known each other forever!

Fast forward to July 4, 2015, and he finally asked me the one question I’ve been waiting to hear for like… at least three years … he asked me  to marry him!

I was so in shock that the only thing I could say was “Are you serious?!” Followed immediately by, “Of course, yes!”

Honestly, I’ve never felt more sure about any decision in my life. My only concern is whether I’ll make a good wife. I know I’m selfish… I’m aware of it, though, so that is a start. I’m a horrible cook. I cannot clean worth anything. And, the moment I come home the only thing I ever want to do is go straight to bed.

The wedding will be in 431 days and we already have the chapel and reception venue booked and we went to our first bridal show last weekend! We’ve been doing so well and it’s adorable how excited he is about the whole process. I totally scored a winner :)  

Any wedding planning tips? 

Rainy California Days

Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen,

I am currently sitting in an airport in sunny California waiting to return to sunny Florida! I have never been in California before and although I am not sure if this would really qualify as a real trip to California, I can certainly say that I’ve been here.

Yesterday was a hectic day. It was non-stop chaotic from beginning to the end, and at moments, I was afraid I may breakdown. Nonetheless, I was confident that God had my back and there was a reason I was being sent on this journey. Somehow, I made it through this less than 24-hour California excursion with plenty of prayers and lots of preparation and emails with my home office (shout out to my B-crew for answering my frantic emails and texts!).

Through it all I met some amazing people who offered free rides, insight and good laughs during a stressful time. And, in the end, my heart was still in Florida split between Orlando and Coral Springs.

Sometimes it takes leaving home to realize where your heart remains because that’s home.

After my work commitment, I had a few hours to kill before my flight and knew I should be doing work, so I brought my laptop and answered emails while I got a pedicure in a massage chair. Have you ever sat in one of those things???? Seriously? I thought I had died and gone to heaven? The woman could have up-sold me almost anything and I would have said yes… and I think by the end, I did.  She told me I had dry skin and had to have a sugar scrub, my calluses were horrendous so I desperately needed the callous rub, and I am clearly stressed so why not have the 15 minute foot massage? I walked out of there with my email box caught up for the day… and feeling a million times lighter. It was amazing.

If only I could have gone back to my hotel room at that point to take an three hour nap… I could really use one at this point.

The last few months have been so hectic that I have not been able to update at all. And, honestly, I haven’t wanted to because I have not felt very encouraging. I have not been encouraged in my life, in what I am doing. I am trying to get back to the happiness I felt with what I am doing. I have to refocus on the fact that I am doing what so many people only dream about being able to do. How many people dream about being able to have a job in which they could jump on a plane and go to California for the DAY? I never thought I would have these type of experiences and I need to start appreciating them more instead of focusing on the negative aspects and wallowing in my own self-pity. It’s pathetic.

The next few days are going to be so much fun and I’m going to focus on recharging and recentering. I need it. I’m looking forward to it. I’m so ready for it.

Now just five more hours to kill before my flight… then six more hours of traveling before my weekend can “officially” start.

<3 me.


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