Hey you, this year is going to be filled with lots of changes. You are aging out of your mom’s insurance (gotta pay those doctor bills yourself now!), you will be graduating law school, moving to a new city, and looking for your first big girl job. This new chapter is going to be pretty scary at first but I know that you can do it because you’ve made it through so many other crazy things in 2013. Keep being you but be the best you that you can be. Continue reading
I’ve been thinking a lot about 2015. A lot of things have happened, good and bad; it will certainly be a year to remember. I left an unsatisfying job that was killing me slowly in civil litigation for my new career as an assistant public defender, moved into our first home, got Toby back to Florida, and best of all got engaged to the greatest man, ever! In all of these changes, though, I’ve let my health slip.
Looking forward to the new year and more exciting events, I want to ensure that I start taking better care of myself. Surrounding myself with people who are going to support my lifestyle change is the first step to being successful with this mission. Finding the fitness program is easy since I’m a Beachbody coach and have access to a multitude of programs to try depending on my goal for the day. Although for the next sixty days I intend to follow the new Hammer & Chisel training program with my test group. I’m terrified because it is not intended for beginners, and, while, I do not always see myself as a beginner, I have not done anything really strenuous over the last couple months with the move and holidays.
I do not support body-shaming, yet sometimes I have to admit to myself, especially after the holidays, that my body is not feeling right. I have gotten “fluffy” and let myself go by not paying attention to my nutrition, not getting in my 30-minutes or 10,000 steps a day plan. And, my health has deteriorated.
Each day is a new opportunity, though. Just as I’ve taken control of my finances, I am now going to take back control (for the -umpteenth time) of my health.
You better watch out… I’m going to be a smokin’ bride in September!
Wedding Planning is not easy.
We are currently 391 days away from the wedding and for whatever reason I have this overwhelming pressure to get everything done right this minute. Realistically, I know we have time and that we should be enjoying the engagement instead of worrying about every little detail. Nonetheless, I am concerned that if we do not decide on all the big details now, something will slip through the cracks and become a huge issue down the road when we are both way too busy with school and/or work to deal with it.
Nonetheless, making all of these decisions so quickly is causing me to have severe anxiety over second guessing the decisions we have made. Like, did I pick the right dress? I didn’t have that this is definitely the one feeling, there were no tears, and now I’m not sure what it even means to “feel like a bride”. What if I picked the wrong one? It is only a dress, right?
When should we start planning the bridal shower? When do save the dates go out? Shouldn’t we already have centerpieces picked out? I don’t even have a DJ yet… what about a theme? Everyone seems to have a theme! And, how the heck are we going to pay for all of this?!
So many questions left and only 391 days to answer them all…
you obviously see my dilemma here!
The first time someone asked me if I had gotten my STDs yet, I looked at them like they were mental. Why would I want to get an STD? And why were they so nonchalantly discussing STDs in public? Thanks to the Google, I quickly saved myself from embarrassment and learned that STD in the world of wedding lingo meant Save The Dates because saying the actual words was apparently too exhausting and needed to be shortened.
As of Wednesday, I can proudly announce that the fiance and I selected our STD. We should be receiving them within a week and I have the lovely task of addressing each one to send out to our guest list. YAY! This whole “getting married” thing is starting to get real.
On Sunday, MIL and the SIL (mother-in-law, sister-in-law) and I are going on our first ever dress shopping extravaganza and I am terrified/excited/ready to cry. This is all getting so real. I know we are way ahead of the ball game – we are 400 days away from the date as of today, but it still feels like we have no time since we’re both going to be so busy once I start back working on Monday and he starts full-steam ahead with school/internship/and teaching. It’s crazy how much stuff there is to get done! Yet, once we have the bridal party in place I will start delegating like a CHAMP and use all my years of watching “Say Yes to the Dress”, “Wedding Story”, and “Bridezilla” to my advantage.
I do not see myself as your typical over the top bride who has dreamed of this day since she was a little girl… I really have not. I honestly have no idea what I want my wedding to look like, yet I’m told that once I start planning, I’ll know. So, let’s hope it comes to me. All I hope is that my dream is cheap because Lord knows money isn’t going to come to me in a dream.
What advice would you give me (or any new bride) as I start this planning journey?
One would think you wouldn’t think it was a good idea to try something new on the day of a big photo shoot, right?
I missed that memo.
Let’s start at the beginning…
Photo Credit: J. Jane Photography
We both live in different states and knew we probably would not see each other for an extended period of time until Christmas, so we decided to schedule our engagement photos during my vacation at the end of July (aka last week…aka three weeks after we got engaged). We had no idea what poses we wanted to do, no idea what outfits to select, and absolutely no idea where to start on the photographer search. So, we relied on friends.
Luckily, we found a great photographer – who once we met her turned out to be an old church friend of my fiance!
On the day of the shoot, I thought it would be a great idea to attempt to curl my hair. I am not a very coordinated person, nor am I gifted in the art of hairstyling. Yet, when we walked out the door and after a can of hairspray, my hair looked good. Nonetheless, when you take photos on the top of a mountain…on a windy day… with temperatures in the nineties, your hair tends to fall flat. Why did no one tell me this?!
All in all the photos turned out well, regardless of my wild hair, thanks to our photographer’s direction and keen eye.
My advice to others would be:
- Find a photographer you are comfortable with because our ability to joke around with ours made the session so much more relaxed and allowed our awkward poses to go more smoothly.
- Do NOT try new hairstyles the day or days leading up to the shoot.
- Dress to your style as a couple don’t try to be who you’ve seen on Pinterest, be yourselves!
- Start early so you can re-do the photos, if necessary.
- Do NOT try to be matchy-matchy everyone gets that you are a couple, you don’t need to throw it in their faces with matching outfits.
What advice would you add to this list regarding engagement photos? Are you planning a wedding? How’s it going?
We’re not meant to go through this life alone. From the very beginning God created us two by two for a reason, we were all meant to have a mate. I’ve never been positive where I fell along the lines of believing in soul mates nonetheless, five years ago when everything in the world seemed to be stacked against it, somehow I still found my way towards him. Our friendship led to our first date, and even though neither of us expected anything at first, we eventually started to realize that we couldn’t lie to ourselves much longer. He was my best friend. Being together was so natural. It felt like we’d known each other forever!
Fast forward to July 4, 2015, and he finally asked me the one question I’ve been waiting to hear for like… at least three years … he asked me to marry him!
I was so in shock that the only thing I could say was “Are you serious?!” Followed immediately by, “Of course, yes!”
Honestly, I’ve never felt more sure about any decision in my life. My only concern is whether I’ll make a good wife. I know I’m selfish… I’m aware of it, though, so that is a start. I’m a horrible cook. I cannot clean worth anything. And, the moment I come home the only thing I ever want to do is go straight to bed.
The wedding will be in 431 days and we already have the chapel and reception venue booked and we went to our first bridal show last weekend! We’ve been doing so well and it’s adorable how excited he is about the whole process. I totally scored a winner :)
Any wedding planning tips?